Why I Asked My Daughter to Give Me a Power of Attorney


Recently my daughter turned 18.  In Connecticut this is considered the age of majority.  In other words, she can make her own decisions.  Well, that’s what the law says.  However, she’s still living under my roof, so, well, she’s got to deal with me.  It’s probably more accurate to say however, that I have to deal with her.

A Power of Attorney is a legal document that allows one or more individuals to act on someone’s behalf. This power could be broadly based or limited to a particular situation. An example of a limited Power of Attorney is when someone designates an attorney to represent them at a real estate closing.

Why do you need this document?  When someone turns the age of majority, their information becomes confidential.  For example, her grades in college will not come to me, they will go to her.  This can be easily addressed.  We stop paying for college or we just change the locks on the house.  More importantly, any medical provider no longer has to share any information with us.  They will however, share this information if we present the Power of Attorney to them.  Without a Power of Attorney we need to head off to probate court to get appointed as conservator.  This takes time causing delays and has expenses associated with it.

What should you do if you have a child that recently turned the age of majority?

1) Have a conversation with them about why you would like them to give you a Power of Attorney.  Explain to them why this is important to both of you.

2) Make an appointment with your estate planning attorney.  If you don’t have one, ask your family and friends for a referral.

3) Have the estate planning attorney prepare a Power of Attorney and Health Care Proxy for your child.  A Health Care Proxy allows the person holding this proxy to make health care decisions for the person who gave it to them if they become incapacitated.

4) Keep these with your estate planning documents and other important financial documents.

How much does this cost?  I paid $150, a very modest amount of money to have this handled.

You can’t control the economy.  You can however control how you prepare for any future possible contingencies.  Having this handled should give you some piece of mind.

Have you gotten a Power of Attorney from your children that are age of majority that aren’t yet independent?


Tom Scanlon has over thirty years experience in public accounting with an extensive background in the areas of financial, tax, and estate planning. He prides himself on providing in-depth and customized solutions to privately held businesses and their owners. He is a Certified Public Accountant and Certified Financial Planner®. Tom is a frequent speaker for area organizations and has  recently been quoted on CNBC, Fox 61 News and AARP's blog. Tom also has been a guest columnist for numerous publications including The Wall Street Journal, Barron's, Money Magazine, The Hartford Courant, The Hartford Business Journal, and The New Haven Register. He is a member of the American Institute of Certified Public Accountants, the Connecticut Society of Certified Public Accountants, and the Financial Planning Association. Active in the community, Tom supports a variety of not-for-profit organizations.

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2 comments on “Why I Asked My Daughter to Give Me a Power of Attorney
  1. Steve Pedneault says:

    Thanks Tom for the post. I had not thought about this, but will add it to our college planning files as we prepare for college. Great post, very timely.